Affirmations and Limiting
BeliefsThe traditional purpose of affirmations is to create new, empowering beliefs that will override the
old, limiting beliefs you may have formed during your life time. For example, if you want to be more
confident you would recite a phrase like, "I am strong, confident and successful in everything I do," in the
hopes that it would "sink in" to your subconscious mind and inspire you to think and act in such a
way.
While affirmations can indeed be helpful in inspiring positive change, they also have their
limitations.
This is especially true when it comes to ingrained beliefs that are in opposition to the
affirmations. If you have a deeply held belief that you will never amount to anything (this message perhaps
given to you by a parent or other role model during your early life), your subconscious mind will not accept
an affirmation that you are confident and successful.
Why?
Because it contradicts what you KNOW to be true, deep down inside.
You see, your beliefs are your "truths". Not only do you absolutely, adamantly believe they are
true, you experience everything in your life through them.
Once a belief has been set in your subconscious mind, you spend every moment of your time creating
situations that will confirm and reinforce it. Using the example from above, holding a belief that you will
never amount to anything virtually guarantees that you will act in ways that support that belief. You will
set big goals that you can't possibly achieve, or you will avoid setting any goals at all because you're
afraid of failure. You will sabotage any efforts you make to improve your life. You will avoid people and
situations that can help you break out of your self-defeating patterns because you will feel uncomfortable
about doing so.
All because your subconscious mind is constantly murmuring: "You are a failure. You'll never be
successful. You can't win, so don't bother trying. Why don't you just quit now and save yourself more
embarrassment?" etc.
Positive affirmations are rarely effective on this type of ingrained belief, simply because as you
recite the words, your subconscious mind is rejecting them!
In order to clear limiting beliefs, you need to tackle them directly - not sugar-coat them with
positive affirmations.
Imagine that you were wearing a shirt with a big stain on the front of it and you wanted to get rid
of the stain. What would you do?
Would you put on a nice sweater over the shirt to hide the stain? The stain would be hidden but it
wouldn't be gone, would it?
In order to remove that stain, you need to WASH IT OUT. No amount of covering it up will remove
it.
And it's the same with your limiting, negative, self-defeating beliefs. Reciting affirmations over
the limiting beliefs just won't work in most cases. Instead, you need to identify and then remove the beliefs
that are holding you back.
Only THEN, once you've removed the old, limiting beliefs, can you begin filling your subconscious
with more empowering, positive beliefs.
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